Beberapa Hari Dalam Sejarah

Salam,

Just want to share a few things that happened in this few days. Bukan pengalaman aku sorang saje…

1. Tibe2 terase nk join AUG, so kteorang pn terlibat lah dgn kursus AUG

2. Walaupn di sediakan tempat tinggal di keris mas, kami tetap tinggal di burhan sepanjang kursus AUG siri 2 ni

3. Walaupn tinggal di burhan, sekali pn kami xpernah miss ceramah

4. Kami sudah berada di komplek bestari jam 7.00 pg lg semasa kursus, semua org pn belum dtg

5. Walaupn flatlet adalah bilik untuk seorang, kami tetap tinggal bertiga

6. Walaupn disediakan makanan semasa kursus, kami tetap kuar makan kat mapley

7. Kami xpernah breakfast & dinner dgn makanan yang disediakan semasa kursus AUG

8. Sanggup pinjam kereta untuk dtg taklimat di keris mas walaupn hari hujan

9. Tibe2 jumpe beberapa budak burhan yg join AUG jugk

10. Meluat nk muntah dan menyampah dengan 2 pompuan gedik mase kursus AUG tu, rase cam nk pijak je

11. Tak sempat nk layan movie waktu malam2

12. Terpaksa tido awal to make sure kteorang bleh bgun awal

13. Walaupn diarahkan memakai kasut, kami tetap memakai selipar pergi kursus

14. Kami xpernah membawa fail yg diberikan semasa kursus, tp kami bwk buku kecik

15. Walaupn kami tidak mahu mengikuti senaman aerobik semasa kursus, kami tetap memberitahu pegawai yg berkenaan

16. Apabila ditanye oleh pegawai,siape yg tinggal di kolej selain keris mas, kami bertiga saje yg mengangkat tangan, padahal berlambak lg orang xtinggal kt keris mas, tp semua penakut nak mengaku

17. Xsempat nk g rumah kerja kawin, semate2 nk datang kursus

18. Terase pelik dgn a few thing pasal tentatif kursus yg ditukar sesuka hati

19. Kesian dgn kwn kami yg kerja untuk menguruskan kursus ini

20. Terasa cam nk QUIT je… tp masih dipertimbangkan... hu3

What To Do When You Are Angry

Dedicate to my friends that was not in a good emotion.

There's nothing wrong with being angry. We all feel anger toward someone else at some time. But anger can make us hard to live with. It also can make us less productive at work. You can express your angry feelings constructively, your anger will go away more quickly. And you can more easily solve the conflict that made you angry in the first place. Anger is one of those feelings that many of us just don't know what to do with. Most of us grew up receiving strange messages about anger from our parents: If you're angry, you shouldn't show it... If you're angry, it makes you say things you don't mean... If you're angry, it's okay to break things... etc. No wonder we're confused and frightened by this misunderstood emotion.

Here are some things you should try to do when you're angry:

• Analyze the threat you feel. We usually get angry because we feel threatened in some way. What is it about the situation that threatens you? If you understand what you fear, you'll be able to communicate your anger more clearly. (mcm mane nk analyze? Hurm...)
• Separate the person from the action that made you angry. Remember that the source of your anger isn't the person, but something the person did that made you feel threatened. (jgn bunuh pulak org tu...)
• Calm down. Getting all huffy or outraged doesn't solve the problem.(makan aiskrim bleh calm down kot...)
• Communicate your feelings. Sometimes the person may not know how you feel. Use "I" statements to talk about your feelings. For example, "I get upset when you are late for dinner and don't call. I get worried and scared that something happened to you." (kalo x jalan jugak, pkai je "engkau" or "aku"...)
• Be reasonable. Focus only on the event that triggered your present anger. Don't drag up a list of past actions that made you angry. Don't blame the other person for things he or she isn't responsible for. (jgn lepas kan geram kt orang len...kalo nk jugak, bg je penampar sekali..)
• Be brief. Don't spend more than a few words describing your angry feelings. Then give the other person a chance to respond. (jika perlu kot...)
• Listen to the response. When it comes to feelings, no one is wrong. The other person may also have feelings he or she needs to express. Listen without blaming or being defensive. (kalo orang tu salah, blame je die...)
• Look for a creative solution. Try to find a way to deal with the situation so that everyone wins. Brainstorm the possible solutions to the conflict and compromise to make both of you feel better. (kene fikir secara kritis dan kreatif...)
• Forgive and forget. Forgiving helps you let go of your anger. And forgiveness makes it easier to handle similar situations in the future. Holding a grudge isn't helpful and most often ends up hurting and poisoning the soul. (kalo memang die yg salah, nape nk maaf kan...)
• Acknowledge, at least to yourself, that you are angry. Pretending you aren't doesn't fool anyone! (errmmm...)
• Take responsibility for your feelings: Use "I" statements. It's no one's fault that you've lost your cool. (msti lah kne responsible...)
• Find an appropriate physical outlet, such as running or doing pushups. Let off some physical steam so you're not tempted to do it the wrong way. (pergi jinggo ke or karok ke...)
• Wait till you've cooled down before having important conversations. Anger's "Siamese twin" is regret. (kalo x semua org pn kene marah...)
• Ask for what you want, specifically (e.g., I would like a full refund). Anger is fueled by feelings of powerlessness. (itu sudah pasti...)
• If it helps, express your feelings in writing. You can say whatever you like on paper; the paper won't mind. Just don't decide to send it until you're no longer angry. You'll make a better decision with a clear head. (de orang tu tulis dalam blog supaye semua org bleh baca & tau yg die tgh marah...)
• Use assertiveness skills to stand up for yourself. If you employ these before you get angry, they can keep you from going there. (camne tah... xpasti lak...)

And here are the don'ts:

• Don't expect others to respond well. People are often terrified of even healthy expressions of anger. (kne berfikiran positif skit...)
• Don't use aggression or violence to express yourself. It's never okay to get physical. (kalo nk buat, buat kt harta bende sendri...)
• Don't resort to name-calling or insults. Your relationships will suffer. (panggil je...hanjing ke, ape2 laa...)
• Don't assume that your feelings are someone else's fault. If I react in anger to something you've said, that has more to do with ME than you. It's MY reaction to your words that's causing my experience. Therefore it's not accurate for me to lay that on you. (tp kalo nk assume, bleh je...)
• Don't drive a vehicle before you've calmed down. Anger can make you aggressive and impulsive behind the wheel. Something could happen that you'll regret for the rest of your life. (baru lah seronok beb memandu smbil marah... confirm cepat sampai...)
• Don't try to suppress or ignore your anger indefinitely. It won't go away if you try to ignore it. Once it's been triggered, there's no way out but through. (bleh je cube ignore sekali sekala...)
• Don't take any action you might regret later. This is a real danger when you're experiencing a strong emotion of any kind. Wait till the worst has passed - and it always does - before making important decisions. (ingat Tuhan beb... dan jgn menyusahkan orang len...)
  
• Kalo xberjaye.... maki je mereka, bg la 2-3 bakul makian serentak....
  

Muar

EARLY HISTORY OF MUAR (1^st Story)

The history of Muar started since the times of the Hindu empire. According to history, the name Muar appeared much earlier than the Melaka empire existed.

In 1361, there was a Bhuddist monk (a religious adviser in Majapahit Palace) named Prapanca wrote the famous poetry, Nagarakertagama. This poetry recorded the history of the empire of Majapahit in the Malay peninsular. The king was Hayam Wuruk and his prime minister was Gajah Mada (1350 - 1389). Muar was one of the state under this empire. This piece of history was recorded in JMBRAS Journal, October 1935 issue, Volume XIII, Part 2, pages 15 - 16.

There are other souces of history that proof the early existence of Muar before Melaka. Barros wrote in 1553 about Parameswara (Paramicura), founder of the Melaka empire, was exiled from Temasik (Singapore) after he killed the king. He stopped at Muar and built a wooden fort at a place called Pagoh.

In Sejarah Melayu (Malay Historical Literature), Temasik which then was ruled by Sultan Iskandar Syah, was defeated by the Majapahit empire. Sultan Iskandar Syah moved to Muar. Here he opened two areas near the river Muar called Biawak Busuk and built a fort named Kota Buruk. He eventually moved to Melaka and built its empire.

One event that proved the close relationship between Muar and Melaka was that in 1488, Sultan Alauddin Riayat Syah 1, died in Pagoh, Ulu Muar and was buried there.

STORIES OF HOW MUAR GOT ITS NAME.

Most people know the name Muar was used in accordance with its river, the Muar river. Muar river is frequently mentioned in Hikayat Malim Dewa-dewa Deman (Stories of Malim Dewa-dewa Deman).

From the above writing, it explains the river Muar was originally named Teluk Dalam. The name Teluk Dalam was used maybe due to the fact that many rivers join to one opening to the sea, or a very wide river opening to the sea or estuary.

Some say the name Muar is shortened from the word Muara, a word from Malay Sunda language meaning a very wide river opening to the sea or estuary.

One interesting opinion says, the word Muar was related to the word Muak which means tired of rowing the boat in this very big and winding river. (Jazlan's note: My late grandfather used to tell me this story and I thought he was joking!!!)

Another opinion says the name Muar is from the Hindu word Munu, meaning three, and Ar, meaning river. Here, it was believed to have been originated from a big state in south India in ancient times called Munar or Muar, meaning state of three rivers. This state was formed from three rivers joining into one opening to the sea (estuary). These ancient Hindu people came to Muar looking for gold and they discovered there are three rivers (Muar river, Serting river and Pahang river) joining to one opening to the sea, same as what they had in thier homeland. These people named this place with reference to their homeland.

HISTORY OF BANDAR MAHARANI.

The town of Maharani was officially opened in 1887 by His Mejesty Maharaja Abu Bakar. It was called town of Maharani meaning Town of the wife of the Maharaja. The opening ceremony was done by Maharaja Abu Bakar by a special ceremony of burying a Azimat at a place later called Tangga Batu (now an area full of seafood restaurants by river Muar at the Muar Bus Station for buses going to Melaka and Batu Pahat).

Bandar Maharani grew as a small port at the opening of Muar river, supporting the area for economic activities. During this time, Maharani was the capital for the district of Muar.

Towards 1890, Bandar Maharani grew to become the largest and center for administration and commercial activities in the west coast of Johor state. An English tourist, Florence Caddy wrote:

"The town of Maharani is a beautiful town with a population of around 5,000 people, among them are the Malays who stays around the villages around the town, Chinese and some Indians retailing within the town itself. The town have a few buildings, a saw mill and a small brick manufacturing factory."

The main commecial goods are the port were gambir, pepper, pinang kering (dried betel nut palm), dried coconuts, coffee, sagu ubi (tapioca flour) and fruits. Gambir and local fruits were the main commodities. According to the Johor Government Annual Report 1911, Muar is the biggest producer or Gambir products in Johor between 1887 and 1911.

HISTORY OF MUAR (2^nd Story)

Maybe, most of people today do not know how Muar is called City of the Maharani and has become one of the most well known towns in Johore. Muar also used to be a state under the government of Johore.

According to history, Muar used to be a small port since the time of Portuguese ruling in Malacca until the time Johore is under the ruling of Sultan Abu Bakar who is also known as Maharaja. The Portuguese knew Muar as Muara, which means port and the small port service is provided at the estuary of the Muar River.

The name Maharani was given when Sultan Abu Bakar ruled Johore after the official opening of City of the Maharani in 1884. He officiated Muar as a state ruled under Johore and to as the same status as a state. City of the Maharani means City of the Queen and he presented this city as a gift to his Queen as accordance to her name, Maharani. Since then, The City of the Maharani becomes the capital of Muar. Muar is now a district of Johor.

In the history of the Malay government of Malacca, Muar becomes a partial focus for the Dutch and Portuguese because of its fertile land. Other than spices, pepper and gambir, gold is one of the valuable minerals available in Muar, mostly at Ledang hill, located near the city.

During that time, Kesang River and Ledang River becomes a major transportation route for Portuguese and Dutch, carrying commercial goods to the estuary of Muar River. Muar River becomes an important route for the locals who travel to Pahang, because the river started from Lake Bera in Pahang.

Among the history that has become a legend at the Muar River, a prince called Malim Deman was travelling along the river looking for a princes call Puteri Bongsu, which was said to be hiding at a place near was is now known as Panchur.

In the modern history of Johore, the Muar River becomes an important witness to the downfall of the Malay government of Malacca to the Portuguese in 1511. It was in this river that Sultan Mahmud Shah fled from the Portuguese attack. He and his men built a fort at Bentayan, however the Portuguese managed to track him. Finally, Sultan Mahmud Shah and his men fled to Kota Biawak, of which the Portuguese was still tracking him down. This led him to Kota Pagoh in Kuala Pagoh.

Historian confirmed that Kota Pagoh is one of the attractive and important forts because it is made of clay. Even though now, some parts of the fort have worn out through natural aging, its character can still be seen.

During the Bugis empire, the famous five brothers, Daeng Marewah, Daeng Parani, Daeng Celak, Daeng Manambun and Daeng Kenasi, also have relation with Johore's history. They were said to have come to Muar and stayed at Liang Batu in Lenga.

History also shows, Muar have relation with Malacca since the ruling time of Sultan Alaudin Riayat Shah 1. His death in Pagoh becomes a mystery and a legend. Some said he died while relaxing and some said he died after accidentally stabbed with a pin (???).

According to legend, Sultan Alaudin was white blooded and have relation with the legend of Mahsuri in Langkawi Island. Nobody can confirm how true that is and historian cannot analyse this story with accuracy.

Some historical finding at the Muar beach facing the Straits of Malacca, that is between Tanjung Emas to Parit Jawa is Makam Panglima Lidah Hitam (Grave of the Black Tongue General) in Parit Sakai. This area was also known as Padang and was opened by the immigrants from islands of Sumatera and Bugis. Malay history have described this as highly populated and they used the Straits of Malacca as a main route between Muar and Malacca.

After the fall of old Johore government, Sultan Abu Bakar, popularly known as the Father of Modern Johore, turned the Muar River into a significant transportation system and economic resource to the state.

A lot of interesting stories and events, behind the history of Muar happens during the growth of the city now, and a lot of historical facts are being preserved, some road are named after a historical fact. These histories are remembered and referred to by the new generation.

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